4 Secrets of Time Management

After hearing many undeserved compliments about my multi-tasking abilities with varied avocations, my hard-working nature etc, I thought its time I reveal to the world around me that I'm far from being a hard-worker. On the contrary, I'm one of the laziest creatures around.

So how do I manage to pursue varied avocations and hobbies ? Answer is not in multi-tasking as much as it is in time management. I was in a situation where I had no choice but to learn time management or fail in my longtime goals. Necessity is the mother of invention and I had to reinvent myself and circumvent my laziness.

My Story

There was a time in 2017 when I was in the final stages of my Ph.D thesis work and also on the verge of completing coursework at Harvard and hence had to regularly travel to Boston in addition to handling my regular work. Though my wife took upon her the responsibilities of our kids (then 4 and 2 y.o respectively) and The Saharsh Project, things were getting extremely difficult and dropping out of Harvard was just around the corner but I reached so close to those academic goals which many die for and I could not have lost that golden opportunity. But time was a scarcity and I had only one option and that was to get the most of 24 hours I had in a day.

I meticulously planned for 5 hours of sleep, 2 hours of daily routine that left me with 17 hours a day which meant 5 hours to read, prepare and 12 hours a day to write thesis, dissertation, project work, presentations, research work etc. Yes I was only writing and publishing strategic management related articles for 12 hours every day for months. Looking back, it appears surreal but it was a norm then.

Had I aimed at perfection in all tasks at my hand, I could not have completed any of that. So I chose to be more productive, left out few tasks I could afford, learnt faster ways of doing things, invested 100% in my priorities and adapted myself to the time pressure through skimming, extreme focusing to the tune of not acknowledging the exterior world. I wouldn't have noticed even if somebody robbed me then. At one point, one full hour felt like a luxury.

The phase ended. I graduated from Harvard in May 2017, submitted Ph.D coursework a month later, got doctorate later that year and suddenly I had all the time in the world but didn't want to let go my hard-earned time managing attitude. I needed to do take up something else to keep myself busy by honing my abilities and testing new waters. That was the beginning of my version 2.

I rekindled perennial interest in traveling and we traveled all 7 continents in that calendar year to commemorate our 10th anniversary, revived my latent blog and voraciously read as much non-fiction as I could get hold of. I still had time so I picked up new interest in photography, short film making, cooking. And in everything, I tried to implement the techniques I learnt earlier and in the process racing against time became more fun than compulsion.

I do not usually like to sermonize others as how to manage their time because what worked for me may not work for everyone universally. Also it all depends on how badly one wants to work towards their passion. So the below observations or secrets of time management are based on my own case and could be subjective to my points of view

Secret (1) - Plan for minutes or seconds

Most complain that they don't have enough time to get over daily chores. But I never understand people who take 2 hours for cooking or 30 mins for shower. For example to take a shower - it takes 15-20 seconds to get wet (why more than that ?), 30 seconds to apply soap, 15 seconds to get rid of soap. Even if it's repeated thrice, it takes 3 minutes. Clothing would take another 120 seconds (really need more ?). So if one spends more than 5-10 minutes in shower, they are just having fun or making excuses for themselves.

This logic might sound silly but once you get into the habit of planning things based on minutes if not seconds, you'll notice a significant change in your lifestyle. There is a fastest way of accomplishing every task and if you think this sounds impractical, read more on project management techniques CPM & PERT.

Secret (2) - Prioritization

Assume you overslept and have only 30 minutes to catch the train whereas you usually take 2 hours every morning to get ready. What would you do ? You PRIORITIZE.

You skip all avoidable habits like browsing through Instagram or Facebook on bed or toilet seat, admiring yourself in mirror for long, spending more time in selecting outfits. Bottom line is that when you are under time pressure, you do certain things differently by prioritizing only the unavoidable stuff and skipping everything else. Why can't we do the same even when we are not under any time constraint ? How much of time can you save if we make it a lifestyle ?

Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs sported same kinds of t-shirts everyday just to save time spent on deciding what to wear everyday. Lesser decision fatigue, more time at hand.

Secret (3) - Adaptability

Human body and mind are adaptable. If you subject yourself to certain kind of time pressure for a while, it will gradually become a norm and you start accomplishing the task faster. If you have 1 hour for any task, tune your mind that you have only 20 minutes and plan accordingly.

Pick a task - for example cooking - notice why would it take more than 120 seconds for washing vegetables, 600 seconds for chopping, 120 seconds for adding spices to the pan. Do you really need more than 30 minutes to cook one curry ? Or practice spending not more than 10 seconds to wear shoes.

Taking shower for 30 minutes may give you happiness or satisfaction, but is that satisfaction really worth when you can finish off both shower and cooking within 30 minutes and pick up a hobby in the saved time ? This attitude doesn't get into your system in a day, but doing the same for weeks or months will auto-tune your body and mind.

Secret (4) - Aim for productivity not perfection

You may feel, the above techniques will not result in perfection. I totally agree but think how many tasks we do on a daily basis require perfection ?

                         Output
Productivity =  ---------
                          Input

This has been my mantra ever since I reinvented myself. If perfection is taking more input with lesser output, bid adieu to that perfection. I would rather earn $5 with 1 hour of effort than $10 with 10 hours of effort. Decide for yourself how much time do you want to spend on each task based on the results it yields. Aiming for perfection in unnecessary stuff is a perfect recipe for failure and disappointment.

Trust me, most tasks you do now can be completed with almost similar quality in 20% of the time you take now.

Analysis

If you notice, none of my blog posts, creative work are perfect because I chose to be productive over being perfect. I spend not more than an hour to write a blog post and I never bother to proof read before publishing. I don't spend more than 2 days to shoot a song (only once took 3 days) and in most cases I shoot with my phone to avoid set-up lag and overheads, I take only 2 days for editing. That's because neither blogging nor film making is my career and I don't mind being judged.

When I read something, I skim through patches of paragraphs without reading every word. What started as compulsion became a lifestyle and now its more fun to race against the clock. I do indulge in these hobbies for my fun without being perfection-conscious but by doing the same many a time, I managed to get decent command and this would eventually turn into perfection some day. But what mattered more for me is that I caught a habit of reducing lag in doing any task, made it a lifestyle and now using the saved time to pick up new hobbies, avenues and slowly expanding my repertoire one thing at a time.

PS: As we speak, I'm in middle of expanding business operations, final stages of house construction, ground work for a major event through 'CutMirchi Media', expanding 'The Saharsh Project', editing 12 videos, working on astrophysics based vlog, filming remaining portions of web-series. I'm able to do these not because I'm gifted but because I gifted invaluable 'time' to myself. It's more about discipline and attitude than talent.

4 types of rapists among desi men !

When Nirbhaya incident happened 7 years ago, I was shaken and outraged like the rest of India. I, like many others, wished and hoped for public hanging and castration of the perpetrators. I wrote an article Society Encouraging Rapists !!! and gradually moved on like the rest of countrymen.

Now Priyanka Reddy incident happened. I'm again outraged; people again calling for public hanging. Déjà vu ! But one welcome change is that all four perpetrators were encountered and killed like mad dogs on streets (current development as I'm writing this article), though I only hope this doesn't become a precedent to unchecked extrajudicial killings

Hope this makes other rapists think twice before remotely thinking of such heinous and gruesome crime but that's just a naive hope and I know that won't happen.

Within 3 days of the sad incident, 'Priyanka Reddy' video was searched for more than 8 million times in a porn site in a hope that rapists could have recorded and uploaded it. An young doctor full of life was RAPED, BURNT ALIVE and millions of bastards wanted to watch that video to jerk off. Let that sink in !

This mentality proves that rapists as we see in news are only tip of the iceberg while the society by and large is infested with men with some level of rapist attitudes within them. I tried to classify such beasts into 4 levels.

Level 1: Criminal Rapists

Hardened criminals who commit rapes aren't naive boys who don't know about legal implications. They totally know rapes are worst of crimes and also know they will be behind bars when they get caught. But their criminal mindset, psychopathic tendencies, sexual starvation, over-confidence in their own physical strength and wit or mere negligence of societal norms make them a severe blot on  humanity. They don't even bother if the girl they are victimizing is a stranger, colleague, neighbor or a friend. They are actually civilizational epidemic.

It's utter naivete and foolishness to assume that public execution or legal punishment of 3 or 4 such criminals will deter these animals from committing rapes. Killing one snake doesn't stop other snakes from biting. When a rapist is executed or convicted, just one rapist would be less in the society. That won't reform others, period

Level 2: Potential Rapists

Numerically there are only few criminal rapists, but there are many more who fantasize and celebrate rapes. All those millions who searched for rape porn video mentioned earlier form this bloc.

If that wasn't enough, there are guys who cheer and celebrate brutal rape-murder. If you see the screen capture of some comments that came aftermath Priyanka Reddy's gruesome murder, you will be appalled beyond disbelief.

Collectively all of them meant the girl was beautiful, rapists were lucky, girls enjoy being raped and all girls must be raped. There are hundreds of such comments, tweets and messages flooding all over social media. When you have time, listen to this audio clip of one of those guys who proudly endorse his comments and his 'ideology' of celebrating rapes.

If provided immunity from law, they all will commit rapes at their first given opportunity. They are sociopaths and potential rapists. And there are millions of them roaming around streets.

Level 3: Latent Rapists

Most level 1 and 2 rapists are sexually frustrated men whose anti-social tendencies make them a menace to the society. While they are dangerous and loathsome, their tendencies are more to do with sexual starvation and not outright hatred or prejudice against women.

There is a bloc of pathological misogynists who hate women out of sheer male chauvinism, superiority complex. They can't stand a woman standing up to them. They want to 'teach them a lesson' and show the role and status of women in the society. They epitomize patriarchy and male chauvinism.

While in most cases, these men don't commit rape as defined in the law, they would commit marital rape which unfortunately go largely unnoticed. Some men commit mental rape by oppressing, assaulting and harassing women around them. Though these people don't come under the gamut of law, they cause the most trouble to women on a day to day basis.

Level 4: Dormant Rapists

Dormant rapists typically don't rape, neither do they cause any direct offence but give credence to all above mentioned levels of rapists by giving them moral high ground through victim blaming and moral policing. These 'priviliged' men lay rules as what a women should dress and how should she behave so as not to 'tempt' them. They espouse men's inability to keep their dick in pants looking at women and hence absolve rapists and blame victims.

Most such men, unfortunately are supposedly wise, learned and senior men of the society. Garikapati's video to that effect here. They believe that a girl who dress to entice is the root cause of the problem without accepting the fact that infants, toddlers and fully clad women form the majority of rape victims.

For such people, rape is not a crime but something men are forced to do because of women's lifestyle and dressing. A man who asks or forces a woman to cover up, wear full pants, ghoongat, pallu, purdah, hijab, burqa or veil is a dormant rapist.

Possible Measures

Eliminating the menace of rape could take decades or centuries because changing the entire society's mindset can't be done through some laws or police action. So solution to this problem may not be immediately feasible but as a collective society, something can be done to mitigate or abate the social epidemic.

Proper parenting: It all starts at home. Every rapist or chauvinist would have an irresponsible or anti-social parent(s) who fail to teach him how to respect everybody in general and girls in particular. Proper parenting and correcting him at young age would nip the problem in the bud

Legalization of prostitution: While this may sound absurd, this could resolve some obvious issues.
Legalization of prostitution and access to responsible sex among young adults could change societal dynamics. That could as well restrict involuntary human trafficking because any kind of legal prohibition would only create vacuum for anti-social elements to fill in through illegal means.

Avoiding segregation: Indian society is largely segregated as far as gender is concerned. Due to the conservative societal pressures, boys and girls are raised and tied separately and involuntary celibacy (incel) is inadvertently encouraged, thus leading to some sexual starvation. This starvation could make some boys see girls as objects for sex instead of treating them as human beings like themselves. I know this may sound like promoting unregulated sex but advocating safe sex is more important for a society than penalizing young boys and girls for pre-marital sex.

Access to porn: Banning porn sites is the dumbest of laws any government can ever pass. Porn could be that much needed outlet for frustrated youth who could otherwise impose themselves on some girl instead. Jerking off in front of a computer is any day better than preying on women.

Dis-empowering moral police: While the above measures may help take starved boys off the street, stripping men who blame victims off their credibility is a major macro societal move. Young boys should be taught that those who blame women for their dressing are weak men who can't control their own senses from committing a crime.

I don't want to be called a FEMINIST !

Last year, I wrote an article critiquing patriarchy and typical son-in-law behavior (The great Indian 'Son-In-Law' syndrome !) which was endorsed and appreciated, especially by women. Whenever I raised my opinion against vulgarization, male chauvinism, misogyny against women, they complimented that I was raised well by my parents and called me a feminist; but each time I got a bit uncomfortable in my skin.

I could bask in the glory of being pro-women activist and appear a gentleman or knight in shining armor etc, but my ideological rant is not against just men or patriarchy but against oppression and hate. If I criticize male chauvinism and patriarchy which is one extreme, I equally rebuke radical feminism which is another extreme because these are two sides of the same coin called prejudice.

This could be an unpopular opinion and many women who earlier liked me may start hating me from now and label me a male chauvinist pig but I DON'T WANT TO BE CALLED A FEMINIST
for two reasons, one for the etymology of the word and second for the way radical hate-mongering and irrational rebellion against everything status-quo is being masqueraded with a fake garb called feminism.

First, I cringe when somebody describes  'feminism' as equality of men and women. There is a simple English word called "egalitarianism" which actually means equal rights and opportunities for everyone regardless of gender, age, race etc.

What if I call myself masculinist and define masculism as equality of both genders. Isn't it an oxymoron ? Feminism or masculism may not be intrinsically wrong but getting away by defining either of them as equality is wrong. Both these terms reek of a strong affinity towards one gender and disinterest towards another, if not hatred.

Secondly, while the movement against gender discrimination is very much necessary in this age and time, the term 'feminism' is somewhat hijacked by a section of hatemongers who turned a serious reforming movement to "all men are trash" movement.

Here are the major disagreements I have with new-age radical feminists:

Misuse of the word 'MISOGYNY': Misogyny by definition is strong dislike or hatred towards women. But when two individuals fight or mistreat each other and one of them happens to be a woman, the word misogyny is loosely inserted into the narrative. That's why 'Arjun Reddy' or 'Kabir Singh' was vilified as misogynistic while the couple in love slap each other. The problem with the movie, if there is any, was only about glorifying hot-headed and uncouth acts of the protagonist. But I haven't heard anybody calling out Alia's character in 'Gully Boy' which was equally uncouth too.

Overrating Independence: When two people get married, they are bound to be dependent upon each other physically, mentally, sexually, financially and in other ways. The moment man or woman in a relationship wants to be 'independent' of the other, the relationship only spirals down to abyss. Women must seek independence only if they have stomach to tolerate her man being independent of her in any ways he wishes to. Instead replace the word 'independence' with 'responsible freedom' for both, it makes so much better sense. Anybody advocating independence of either a man or woman in a union is only ripping them apart.

It's not just Man's world: Have you ever lamented that most among successful people in business or powerful positions are men with negligible or no female representation ? If yes, did you ever try to reason why almost 99% of sanitation workers, defence staff and prisoners happen to be men too ? Be it achievements or struggles, men happen to be majority because of the simple logic that men and women are made differently.

Anthropologically, historically, biologically or physically men are made to be bread-winners, fighters, hunters, go-getters and workers whereas women are made to be nurturers, teachers, caregivers. That's why almost all daycare workers or teachers are women. That's how our DNA is wired.

As a man coming from a family of women achievers and being a hands-on dad myself, I don't intend to say that women aren't made to achieve at work or men can't raise kids. Everybody can do everything if they are committed and dedicated but some things come naturally to certain gender whereas the other gender has to fight against their natural instincts and that's science, even if you don't like.

Nitya Menen in one of her interviews said that few women in their fight for feminism and attempts to be more like men, turning more and more masculine and losing their femininity. That gives a message that femininity is weaker or inferior and one should be masculine to be happy. That's a dangerous and incorrect message.

Pay Discrimination: I do agree that pay discrimination occurs at some workplaces because misogynists do exist. But I was gobsmacked when the female lead of 'House of Cards' Robin Wright whined that she should have been paid on par with the male lead Kevin Spacey who was hundred times more popular, audience-grabber than the lady. The person who gets more audiences, fans to the artwork, and who puts in more effort, screen time, injuries etc should be paid more regardless of the gender. Same is the case with any business. Pay should be proportional to numbers they generate. IT IS NOT A MALE OR FEMALE ISSUE.

Fairness Products: Girls in my family don't use fairness creams or products and I personally find dusky women more attractive. But I could never comprehend the trend of shaming those who use fairness products and even worse attributing this to feminist revolution.

Again this is an anthropology matter because historically men are judged based on their success, ability to provide security and women are judged based on looks. Hence men and women sub-consciously strive to be / look successful and beautiful respectively.

'Fair & lovely' kind of companies thrive despite criticism because sizeable section of women think that lighter skin makes them look beautiful and if that makes them confident, it is their choice and you can't ridicule them for not following your set of beliefs. Even if you believe such women are manipulated by the society to feel so, you advocating fair skin is not beautiful is manipulation too. Their skin, their choice, period. And don't bring misogyny or victimhood into this because men seldom advertise or advocate fairness creams or any make-up items to women.

Body shaming: When Vidya Balan was criticized for her weight, multiple articles spawned calling misogyny and body shaming. Movies and entertainment are show businesses and actresses (and actors) make-up to look good and presentable because looks are important for their line of work. Nobody must criticize looks of a female politician, teacher or an administrator because their KPIs (key performance indicators) are different. For actors and actresses, their presentability along with performance is the most important KPI and evaluating them based on their looks is not body shaming.

Even otherwise, describing a woman as fat is not always body-shaming unless it's used out of context and in a disparaging tone. It is like describing a man as short or tall. It's physical imagery and not always a cause to revolt.

Supporting women without merit: I know women who vote only for a woman contestant, support only women in any argument or fight and call that women empowerment. It's not. Actually it's gender discrimination if a woman is supported solely on basis on her gender instead of merits and demerits in the context. If a women loses an election and that's attributed to collective misogyny of the entire society, it's not a solution but a problem in itself.

CONCLUSION

India is an intrinsically and unfortunately patriarchal and male chauvinistic country and support, empowerment of women is a necessity. I always thought #MeToo is an important movement which needs to be sustained and endorsed as long as possible because it brought forward the menace which most men suppressed in the bud.

Men need to be taught a lesson that consent means everything and objectification of women needs to be demolished. The #MeToo movement also unfortunately resulted in innocent victims when con-women exploited the sympathy to their favor. But this is collateral damage. In any war, some innocent civilians die during attempts to annihilate enemy.

But this support to women in need is being diluted by a bunch of angry, radical and fake feminists who reduced a much needed movement to 'all men are trash' movement. Such women want the privileges of women, power of men but responsibilities of neither.

Presence of some scoundrels doesn't make entire gender a bunch of misogynist trash. Indian men, in particular must be lauded for their commitment to families because males of any species (including humans) aren't made to stick with families unlike mothers who are natural protectors of their offsprings. If a man is responsible enough to raise, nurture and show love and care to his family, he is acting against his natural instincts. Calling him trash just because he happens to be a man is loathsome and repulsive.

I know such radical feminists who claim that men like me who don't accept that all men as trash were actually a major part of the problem. Whoa ! To my surprise I found hundreds of articles on "all men are trash" and almost all articles engage in wordplay to suggest it's final, non-negotiable and anybody who counters that argument was a male chauvinist pig himself.

but I rarely bother being judged or hated upon. If that makes me trash, so be it.

A Cancer called Casteism

I just finished watching Ayushmann Khurrana’s hard hitting film “Article 15” and could not resist even a minute writing this post. The movie didn’t show anything we don’t know. It’s about abject caste discrimination, prejudice, untouchability etc which we read, hear and watch often and forget conveniently. 

There’s a dialogue in the movie which loosely translates into saying that more manual scavengers die on duty than soldiers at border. There’s also a scene where a manual scavenger is shown rising from filth in a gutter with lumps of sewage on his naked body only to dive back into the same gutter to complete his job. I honestly felt my stomach churned and guts blown. Been long time when some scenes in a movie made me personally guilty and shameful.

I hope everybody who reads this article, for a moment imagine themselves cleaning filth from the gutters under toilets of others or working on funeral grounds cleaning up after dead are cremated. Imagine others washing their hands after you shook their hands or others throwing the food you prepared in garbage just because you do menial job which they can’t and don’t do for themselves.

For us urban, educated, well-settled, well-informed people, our ego will be terribly hurt when our group of friends exclude us from their weekend gatherings. We feel upset when we don’t earn or dress or show-off like our neighbors or friends. Just think, there are 16% of Indian population who are untouchables just because they are born into a certain caste and hence forced to do a job which you don’t want to do. And if you think this happens only in rural pockets of India and caste discrimination doesn’t happen among ‘progressive and thinking’ Indians (or diaspora), you are either naive or living in denial or both.

I’m born in a supposedly upper caste associated with priesthood but never associated with any lifestyle that comes with that tag. The first time I ever contemplated about caste was during engineering college admissions where caste equations played a major role. And I hated caste-based reservations which denied me admission in any college in my city because I was put in a privileged category despite hailing from a working-class family. I had been a strong opponent of such reservations and also wrote earlier blog posts advocating merit-based admission against caste-based reservations.

But with age comes wisdom and with information change opinions. As I saw the world more, I started realizing that meritocracy (priority to merit or skill) would mean that only those with merit, skill, knowledge would be given all opportunities and only they can lead a happy life. And those lesser mortals who couldn’t develop skills for any reason (socio-economic, learning abilities or demographic) would be denied a happy life, which I believe, is gross injustice. 

A kid born to a manual scavenger who struggles for 2 meals a day for his family wouldn’t be in a same mental state of mind to compete with a privileged convent educated kid for some college admission because skill-development is dependent on various factors. If discrimination was done on the basis of caste, reservation too should be on the same parameter. So giving more opportunities to the lesser privileged is the obvious solution and reservations should remain. I know people from my community would lynch me for saying this, but this is how I have evolved today.

I know there are many people from scheduled castes who progressed, thanks to reservation and there should be a mechanism to take such people out of the reservations system and lesser privileged people from the same community should be offered such opportunities instead. But that’s easier said than done because vote banks and political equations mean more than social justice.

The irony of this era is that most of those who complain against caste-based reservations themselves aren’t oblivious of their own caste affiliations. That applies equally to rural parts of India to diaspora in US or Canada etc. NRI’s may not practice blatant untouchability because they are “modern and progressive” but most of them want to be friends with only those belonging to their own caste. They want only their caste people to occupy positions of recognition whether it’s at their workplace, community events, civic elections or even beauty pageants. The kind of unity they display and heavy lobbying they resort to for their caste is amusing and loathsome at the same time.

When I spoke about this sometime back, a wise man questioned me that when we get together with others belonging to our country, culture, language etc what’s wrong in grouping within our caste? Huh, there’s an inherent flaw in this logic. We associate with our fellow countrymen because we have a commonality whether in terms of culture, heritage, way of life but even that doesn’t warrant discrimination against others or nepotism towards our own. When we group with people who speak the same language, there’s a commonality, which is easy communication. In case of country, ethnicity, language, there is a group identity we associate for our own convenience, lifestyle or communication. WHAT THE HELL IS COMMON AMONG TWO PEOPLE OF THE SAME CASTE WHICH THEY DON’T SEE IN OTHERS?  

What’s a Reddy or a Yadav or a Brahmin / Kapu / Goud / Chowdary do within their own community which they can’t do with person from another caste ? N.O.T.H.I.N.G. It’s not group identity. It’s the way they were raised, they were told how important their own community was, how inferior or bad others were. When NRI’s too resort to such school of thought and inculcate the same in their kids too, it’s a travesty and a mockery of all their education and knowledge. It's cancer.

As long as the fake pride in caste identity remains, bigotry against other castes will remain too. As long as some castes live in superiority complex, there will be some others who will be discriminated against and their generations will live waging a war for self-respect and identity.

PS: For those who think I’m being self-righteous or sanctimonious, not even 5% of my friends belong to my caste. I never attend my caste-based events. I don’t follow or even acknowledge the existence of such events. I hope my kids never ask or know what caste they belong to because they don’t belong to any. And I’m not taking any pride in this because I believe this is how normal human beings should behave.

Signing off !

Open letter to my Kids - 1

Dear Bachchoos,

Since you are too young to understand big people stuff like wisdom and life, I'm writing this in a hope that someone would show this article to you when you grow if I'm not around. Generations evolve by gaining wisdom out of their parents' experience and it's my turn to tell you few things which I learnt it hard way, so that you don't make the same mistakes I did.

• Never get into revenge mode:

You would face many situations when you get angry, upset, outraged on others and your first reaction would be retaliation on the perpetrators. That's a bad idea because after you take your sweet revenge and look back, you would not have gained anything substantial for yourself except that insignificant sense of fake triumph. Rather try to channelize that anger, insult and outrage into ruthless passion and breach a new frontier. Every time I managed to do something, I used the anger in my mind as a fuel. Trust me, that works.

• You can't control others' impression about you

You can't cultivate or control an image about yourself. You must understand that as you grow leaps and bounds, you will attract hatred, criticism. In the world of internet to spread information and tools to edit almost anything, all it takes is a figment of imagination of your hater to slander, gossip or mud-sling at you without remorse. You can go only up to a certain level to defend or explain yourself and later you have to leave it at others' discretion. Negativity is attractive, can be spread faster, easier and can never be eliminated from people's minds even if you disprove everything. So my kids, the world is ruthless. Brace up ! 

• Avoid negative people

Even though some people don't hate you, they carry certain negative energy. If you have a means to resolve their temporary issues, go ahead. But if they are chronic complainers, whiners, pessimists, sympathy seekers and those who expect you to justify yourself all the time - AVOID THEM gradually. You are who you hang out with. The negativity rubs off to you making your life more miserable than it is. Instead if you talk to thinking people, nerds, innovators, those with high aims: trust me their positivity is infectious. The choice you have is a no brainer.

• Maturity is all about reacting to situations

People mellow down as they grow older not just because they get physically weaker but they begin choosing what to react and what not to. Teenagers or mid 20's kids tend to get hyper reactive because that's when they think the world is at their feet and they are invincible or because they aren't wary about consequences to their reactions. Understand that you are free to behave anyway you want but not free to avoid consequences of your deeds, words or to put it simple your reactions to situations. So react cautiously.

• Try to be innovators and entrepreneurs

The world saw very less of leaders and hordes of followers because most want security and make a living by working for others. I will try my best so you don't have to work for your livelihood. Dream high, so high that people around you ridicule and laugh at you first. Identify your passion, learn the craft and try to innovate or make a mark in the field not to gain appreciation of the world but to avoid any repentance during your last days. Zindagi milegi na dobara and I don't want you to waste this precious life of yours slogging in uninteresting jobs to make a living.

• Money is important

Yes, love is important but money is important too. Money gives you flexibility and luxury to love, live, make decisions, turning dreams to reality. People take you seriously when they know you have the ability to earn; not that you need anybody's approval but getting noticed by some people works for you (both personally and professionally). Always analyze how to turn your passion or hobby into a revenue model and then scale it up to greater heights. Saving money is as important as earning. Investing money so your money earns more money is the key you would want to learn early in your life.

• Health is more important than anything else

Even if money, love, success make one's life easy and happy, do you think one can enjoy those when they know they have a life threatening illness or an impending health hazard ? No money or clout in the world can save anybody from a health hazard and you need to keep yourself away from foods, habits, environment or situations within your control which could cause any kind of harm to you (physical or mental). 

• Addictions start harmless

Every addiction has a harmless start. Your peers and friends would inspire, challenge or introduce something apparently adventurous but enjoyable addiction to you which you may think would be easy to control or regulate later. Once you strike a liking to that addiction, you'll only find excuses and reasons to go back to that and soon you'll see you don't control your craving anymore because your central nervous system would't work without that inducement. It could be smoking, alcohol, drugs, gambling, betting or any such vice. Self-control doesn't work once your nervous system takes shots. Beware.

• Express your love

If you like somebody, express that in your gestures, behavior and words in right context. Everybody in this world likes to be loved and when they reciprocate upon your expression, life would be happy. But at the same time, don't expect everybody you like to like you back. If they don't, respect their opinion and stop spending your energy and time on them, yet keeping that liking alive.

• Don't be a bully

Bullying others is easy. But every thug will have a bigger scoundrel harassing them. For everybody wielding a stick, there will be somebody with a knife, and above them will be somebody brandishing a gun who will be scared of a terrorist. Victimizing innocuous people to show off your power or clout will someday result in you being victimized by a bigger bully than you. Never ever get into that territory, it's not worth it.

• Don't argue for unnecessary beliefs

Throughout your life, you'll be surrounded by people believing in different political ideologies, religions, lifestyles and opinions. Come to terms that diversity is the way of the world and never get into arguments nor try to convince somebody about your points of view. After putting your efforts in winning an argument, what do you gain out of that ? NOTHING. So only argue when your personal life or money or relationships are at stake. For all other arguments, just be an audience with popcorn.

• Don't underestimate anybody

Never be complacent or too proud of yourself. There are many people more intelligent and successful than you who just don't show off. Behaving with vain and conceit is annoying. Always respect everybody younger, or those with lesser means, less educated or not as confident as you are because you never know inherent skills, exposure or talent of a certain person based on their appearance or behavior. Try to learn or find inspiration from each one of them and realize the world is too big and your life too small to be overconfident.

My Dear Son,

• My father taught how not to be a male-chauvinist by example and I hope to inspire you. So always understand that your girl(s) are not your property. You don't own them. You are not entitled enough to dictate terms to them. Love more than anything else conquers women.
• Be a responsible man. Girls may appear to be attracted to charming, funny, handsome boys, but they want to marry a man who can be responsible for her and her to-be kids. You must keep your girl secure first and if you are charming with good sense of humor, that's bonus.

My Dear Daughter,

• You don't have to live with a feeling that you need protection from somebody else. I will raise you a strong girl who could take her decisions, stand by her ideals just like your mother. Also you don't have to comply with the society's demands of how girls should behave or dress as long as you have clarity and sense of thought.
• We all come from a school of thought that men and women are equal in every way and we call it egalitarianism, and not feminism. Hope you grow wise enough to understand the difference. Hate-mongering or prejudice of any kind is a big NO.

Other important suggestions to both of you

• Try to cultivate three hobbies - one to earn money, second to keep your creativity alive and third to keep yourself fit and free of unwanted fat.
• To achieve anything maintain consistency and discipline. Many people dream high and start well, but lack of consistency is the difference between achievers and random day dreamers.
• Fast decision making makes strong leaders. And know how to learn from your bad decisions.
• Don't let others dictate if you should be confident or not. Don't let others opinion affect your confidence

Each pointer I wrote in this post was addressed elaborately in one of the articles written and published by me earlier in this blog. I will keep writing more until I'm physically and mentally sane and sound so that you have my thoughts, ideas, words, guidance, presence around you beyond my existence.

PS:  I love you both more than anything in this universe. Hope you know your father always stands like a wall behind you. Whenever you face any hardship, take it for granted that I will always be around guiding you how to handle but I want you to develop skills and attitude where you don't need my guidance. 

Non Vegetarianism is like Sex

Disclaimer:

1. I don't intend to justify or mock either vegetarianism or non-vegetarianism. 
2. I'm non-religious and don't practice any caste stereotypes. I don't correlate food habits with caste or religion.
3. I used the concept of sex to bring out an analogy between natural human instincts and not to titillate.
4. I tried to analyze why vegetarian activism of non-violence against animals doesn't yield deserving results.

If you are sensitive or find any discussions about food habits or sex offensive, please don't read the below article. These are just my thoughts and are totally subjective.
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Dear Vegetarians,

If you chose vegetarian diet for ethical, moral, humane reasons and if you don't want to be a party to harming or killing animals - you have my unconditional and unwavering respect. I don't mince words in saying that you belong to a morally superior breed of humans and no silly argument could push you off your pedestal.

There would always be people arguing that plants are living things too without understanding that plants don't have central nervous system, brain or pain receptors. You will find others lecturing that eating animals is important for circle of life and to maintain a balanced food chain in the environment without accepting they eat animals that were selectively raised to slaughter and not with an intention to control animal population in their natural habitats. If they argue about nutrition and health benefits with non-vegetarian food, let me tell you there are superior health benefits with vegetarian food.

Don't bother about any internet articles shared by them stereotyping or belittling vegetarians or vegetarianism. They are usually compelled to do so that they feel they weren't on the wrong side of moral compass. You don't have to take them seriously. Hence I reiterate that voluntary vegetarians are more ethical, kind, virtuous, progressive thinking people of the society, hands down.

This article is dedicated not to vegetarians or animal lovers in general but to vegetarian activists who try to propagate vegetarianism among non-veg eaters. Let me tell you, your intention is noble and righteous because you hope to spread non-violence and love towards animals. Highly appreciable but I tried to analyze why such efforts don't yield remarkable results among non-veg lovers. There is a scientific or to be precise biological or anthropological reason behind that. Read on:

Do you know that the self-control, self-discipline and ethics you follow in terms of food habits is not natural to human species ? Human digestive system is designed for and is adaptable to non-veg food and we are born omnivores. Our stomachs, intestines, teeth are made to process both kinds of food. Appetite for non-veg food comes natural to human physiology. Pleasure cells in human brain release dopamine rush when eating non-veg food, the same dopamine which in high levels causes addiction to vices and guilty pleasures. That's human tendency. That's science. But in a way, that's a physiological handicap.

Hence if you are a vegetarian, you chose to rise above natural human instincts and laws of nature but your non-veg friends are living their natural life bestowed by thousands of years of evolution. So any activism or sharing articles would only cause them discomfort but not remorse.

Vegetarianism is to Celibacy what Non-Vegetarianism is to Sex

For starters, celibacy means avoiding sex or any intimate physical relationship. There are philosophical, spiritual, religious theories about how refraining from sex is important for better and pure living. Celibacy, vegetarianism and sobriety are considered pillars for leading a higher standard of living. Many theories suggest that sex should be avoided (or limited to just dutiful reproduction of children) and the precious energy must be preserved and utilized in other very essential and indispensable functions. This might sound ridiculous for many but celibate movement is a genuine undercurrent phenomenon. You would be surprised to know how many world renowned legends practiced celibacy (including Mahatma Gandhi, Queen Elizabeth-1, Isaac Newton, Nikola Tesla to name a few).

But sex is a basic human necessity. Maslow's hierarchy of needs too states that sex is a raw physiological need that cultivates motivation. I don't want to use the concept of sex in this article to make anybody uncomfortable. Think of it as fuel for humans which gives intrinsic satisfaction to body and mind. So avoiding sex doesn't come naturally to humans just like avoiding non-veg food is not intrinsic. We are made like that and would continue being so unless another thousand years of ethical evolution causes humans to organically rise over.

Maintaining self-control and self-discipline for whatever they believe in must be lauded but imagine a situation where celibates describe others how awful the activity of sexual intercourse is. That's very similar to vegetarian activists trying to explain how animal cruelty or non-vegetarianism are improper.

If you show inhuman slaughterhouse videos to your non-veg friends and ask if they still want to eat non-veg, it's like a celibate showing you crass outrageous porn videos and asking if you still want to have sex ! They wouldn't refrain from what gives them pleasure, but would find ways to discredit your activism..and dislike you. They are hard-wired that way.

Though I know comparing animal cruelty to sex is silly, I'm trying to bring an analogy between two distinct human instincts that can't always be influenced by activism. But there are quite a few examples of non-veg lovers renouncing their food palate and I believe they should be hugely respected for their mettle and restraint.

PS: I mentioned that I have high regards for voluntary vegetarians but not so much for those who practice vegetarianism for religious or caste compulsions. I skimmed through Vedas, Upanishads and Manusmriti and let me tell you there are equal number of verses discouraging and encouraging non- vegetarianism and you may selectively choose what you want to follow. That debate some other time. If interested, read my earlier article about History of Religion.

The great Indian 'Son-In-Law' syndrome !

This post is not about the contemptible jerks who physically, verbally or mentally abuse their wife, or in-laws. That's a cringe worthy social epidemic but this article is about an average Indian married man who caters to his family and appears to be gentle and well-cultured. Sometimes he masquerades as a torchbearer of equality too but deep inside he would be suffering from "Great Indian Son-In-Law Syndrome".

One of the earliest advices I got from my well-wisher ahead of marriage was to enjoy 'son-in-law' status post wedding and not let in-laws gain control of me ! I was too naive to even understand what he meant because I never saw my father or brother-in-law behave in any condescending manner or 'enjoy' their son-in-law title.

People change with changing times, education, awareness and exposure. But if there is something that could not be rattled with all the change in the world, its the mindset of the average Indian son-in-law, the patronizing, supercilious member of the family who believes in exercising the right he's supposedly entitled to.

To all my fellow married men, run through this checklist:

1. Do you get offended when your parents-in-law address you as nuvvu (tum) instead of meeru (aap) ?
2. Do you expect in-laws to call and wish you on all festivals ?
3. Do you sulk if your in-laws don't consult you for any major decisions they take ?
4. Do you expect in-laws to offer you clothes and gifts on all festivities or family events ?
5. Do you expect your wife to convince you before meeting her own parents and siblings ?
6. Do you believe you've done a favor to their family by accepting to marry their girl ?
7. Did you discuss or influence your wife to change her last name to yours ? or ever claimed that you "allowed" your wife to retain her maiden last name ?
8. Did you ever feel you "helped your wife" by doing household chores ?
9. Do you dread that your friends and extended family could call you "jhoru ka ghulaam" hence try to dominate your in-laws and wife ?
10. Did you believe your wedding expenses (or gifts) were the responsibility of your in-laws ?

If you answer yes to any of these questions, you suffer from son-in-law syndrome. Not that it's criminal but you must refrain from claiming to be a modern thinking man regardless of your education, knowledge, wisdom, social status or ideology.

Patriarchy is deeply ingrained in Indian minds since generations. Sexism, rampant discrimination were earlier considered normal and largely acceptable. Since centuries, its interpreted that son-in-law was responsible for their daughter's wellness and more respected and appeased he was, better would be their daughter's life. That's because historically women were largely confined to four walls of the house and had to live inferior lives. The respect or sometimes fear of son-in-law is the direct consequence of the same patriarchal hangover even to date. Generations of such appeasement and mollification got so entrenched into DNA of the society that men feel offended if they weren't treated like demigods.

Adding up everything, it's a fact that sons-in-law were not respected for the people they were but out of the fear that they could harm their wives. And it's not a surprising fact that the men encourage and entertain such entitlement to this day with active encouragement from their families. Isn't that a tacit blackmail or threat ? How shameful could that get ?

Dear men, you marry a girl because you (like her) need a lifetime companion for physical, emotional, social and mental needs; a person who promises to live rest of her life with you and who builds along with you a strong bond of love, mutual trust and inter-dependency. In the equation, if she doesn't expect your parents to respect her in a certain way, why would you ? Why are you, as a male, more important ? Just because you have a dick ? Does that grant you the privilege ?

It's a puzzle how a man who respects random senior people on the street fail to treat his parents-in-law who are seniors too, with similar respect. Being a man is not about bludgeoning somebody because the weak and elderly are intimidated of the possibility of you harassing their loved one. Being a man is not about exploiting them to appease you to show off how dominant or alpha male you are. Being a male is not demanding or begging for honor, it's about earning respect for the person you are.

Man is not the 'head of the family" as been taught to us in our primary school. You wouldn't be a 'jhoru ka ghulaam' if you get rid of your male chauvinism. Every species in the universe would born either male or female and you just happened to be a male due to the chromosome game. Being a male is not something you earned, there's nothing to be so proud to be one.

Machismo lies in being chivalrous, gentlemanly, gracious and charming with everybody in general and those who respect you in particular. Without these qualities, you will just be a dick...which you may take helluva pride in.

PS: For those who try to connect dots about my wife's last name; we never ever discussed about that and she uses my last name only on the social media for her own reasons and she's proud to retain her maiden name elsewhere, like my mother or my sister.

Tamasoma Post-Mortem & CutMirchi Future

It's been a week since we released Tamasoma to YouTube audience and since then it has been a roller-coaster ride with mixed feelings. I find this phase very entertaining, enlightening and worth sharing. Here's my account.

When I embarked on this journey, I had 3 story points to turn into films and took the most simple and straightforward script for Tamasoma because I knew the first attempt would be a learning curve. Hence the story had only 4-5 characters, limited locations and duration. I didn't intend to create any ripples nor submit my work to sundance film festival. I basically wanted to learn how to present an idea in a cinematic way in the most engaging way possible without boring the audience.

The Good

I read many books and watched videos about film making where gurus advised not to introduce the major plot incident right in the first scene because that would require a director to engage the audience continuously thereafter without tiring them. But with Tamasoma,  I deliberately defied that rule and tested myself if I could deliver a 40 minute saga without losing audience's interest despite a major incident right in the opening scene.

I heard many accounts of feedback - both positive and negative from people I know and others too. The criticism was majorly around bad dubbing and audio quality or screenplay of the last 10 minutes but almost everybody agreed that the story, concept engaged them and they enjoyed the unpredictable twists. Everybody unanimously agreed that I could hook them up for 40 minutes without distraction. THAT'S MY SUCCESS.

After I took up this journey, at least 50 people told me that they always wanted to make short films, skits or feature films but they could never begin due to whatever reasons they had. I had my own reasons too, but I broke through the barriers, wrote, narrated, directed, produced and promoted a product which was born out of my mind. THAT'S MY SUCCESS.

We are glad that we could stand up to our first marketing slogan that this was the story never been told in world cinema and we are proud of it.

The Bad

When I saw the aggressive tirade by makers of  "ee nagaraniki emaindi", "veera bhoga vasantha rayalu" against reviewers, I was amused. If a person delivered a creative product for public consumption in a public domain, they should be ready to accept any criticism. Hence I was more than willing to listen to constructive criticism about my first attempt.

Also I don't understand filmmakers who get annoyed by criticism and reviews by those who never held a camera nor shot a home video. Talking of analogies, when we go to a restaurant we would review the taste of food even if we can't cook. Same logic applies here. Those who critique films don't need to be knowledgeable about film making. For me, criticism is not bad. Actually that's more important than praises because that's how I can think from audience's perspective and learn what not to repeat in the future.

But yeah, those critics can't make even a fraction of what film makers do is a different afterthought though. Nevertheless there are always few negative people who want to humiliate and slander and I refuse to acknowledge their existence.

Bad Dubbing:

The unanimously raised point was the bad audio quality and poor dubbing. I totally agree with everybody. Here is what happened: We initially thought sync sound would be too difficult logistically and went ahead with an idea of ADR (dubbing). Since it was a 40 minute movie and we had only a handful of characters, we borrowed a radio station for 4 hours thinking we could finish the dubbing off. But for our surprise, it took around 4-5 hours for each actor. That was harrowing. The studio team would have agreed if it was a couple of more hours but 30 hours against 4 hours of earlier approved time was way out of line and I didn't want to trouble them because the inconvenience was evident.

The biggest mistake at that point was not to hire a professional studio for the remainder of dubbing because I thought we could do the rest at home with a microphone and a voice recording software set. Then I started traveling to all actors' houses to get their dubbing done. While the actors did their best, I was a novice in sound management and didn't realize that microphone also captured AC, furnace motor and other unwanted ambiance sounds as well and the end audio had a disturbing hush along with their voices. I asked my BGM director to remove the hush and he warned me about implications. I insisted and he did something and in the process lost some voice textures too, in addition to losing BGM effects as well. It was 40 hours of recording, traveling, post production sound design (more than shooting time) which went into a monumental waste. I was dejected but could do very less because it was too late to re-dub and I didn't want to trouble actors who already worked for free. Then there was a huge issue of lip sync and getting the right emotions while dubbing.

The final nail on the coffin was that iDream guys compressed the 41 minute movie to 39 minute video including their own animations thus compressing the entire audio and video quality making the negative feedback inevitable.

Bad Screenplay:

While many lauded our product and were lenient because it was my first attempt, few correctly pointed at the incoherent screenplay and fast flowing scenes especially towards climax. I identified that in rushes and hence posted a poll on my FB if I should release or not. I was in two minds but then released it because the output involved hard work of other people involved.

I earlier wrote my story and dialogues and started filming some scenes with just those dialogues without proper screenplay. Towards the end, I learnt screenplay techniques and reshot many scenes and hence you might find few scenes came out well while few others came and went in a flicker before you could register what's going on. That's a notebook case study for bad screenplay.

Behind every 1 minute of film you watch on screen, there were 2 hours of shooting and 2 more hours of pre-production and post production. Unfortunately, thanks to my inexperience, I could realize mistakes committed during shooting only at the editing stage when my editor asked if I had some important extra footage and b-roll...and I didn't have any. So the editor had to mix and match the available footage and deliver the product. Earlier I edited music video reprisals but working with him taught me many intricacies of editing.

Performances:

Debutante actors performed better than their best and got overwhelming appreciation from all corners. If there was any such scene where the audience felt actors could have performed differently, the onus lies upon me because I should have asked them for a retake if I was not satisfied. They performed as many times and in as many variations as I requested from them.

Others:

Few friends advised me to employ multi camera setup, dolly movements, drone sequences in the movie. The camera angles and techniques employed during Tamasoma were deliberate. If you notice, I used all the aforementioned techniques in my other music video reprisals and also tried here but felt not suitable for the screenplay and dialogue narrative. Yet, your feedback is valued and will make sure you will enjoy my next output.

The Future

I took up camera and film making as an active hobby and a borderline passion and not as a career. I would continue to make more movies, videos as long as I get ideas that blow my mind, as long as my wife and friends who share my passion are willing to collaborate and as long as my parents and family join me through the process.

Few well wishers warned me that film industry is not known to "give chances" to outsiders and I should make more love stories or comedy to get more chances. I seldom ask for chances from anybody and I would only collaborate with those who want to join aboard my vision. I don't find love stories and boy meets girl kind of sagas interesting and don't intend to be a drop in the flood of short films and movies that pass us everyday. I would initiate something only when the plot blows my mind. And I found two such plots.

While I would want to reserve the best plot I devised for a theatrical release feature film sometime in the near future, there is another interesting plot which I'll roll-out soon as my second short film. The story will have more characters, longer duration, more action visuals, less conversations and I promise to overcome blunders I committed in Tamasoma. The title would be "Asatoma" and is not related to "Tamasoma" in any way.

Those who watched Tamasoma would know that I left all characters as open ended and nobody was shown as dead (may be except one). All the loose ends would be connected in a more unthinkable way in Tamasoma-2 which will be a limited and private release to those who enjoyed Tamasoma-1.

In addition, we are planning to roll-out three different weekly talk shows about three completely unrelated topics. My wife will helm two of those and I would take up the third one. Will begin those too as limited releases to gauge the reaction before releasing it on YouTube. Interested people can join our private audience list.

The Conclusion

I wholeheartedly thank everybody who took time to watch Tamasoma and acknowledge the beginning of my new journey. Thanks and love to those who liked it and to those who had all kind words for me and the team. Thanks a ton to everybody in cast and crew who believed in my vision. Thanks to everybody in and beyond the team who have been promoting the movie to help me expand my horizons. Thank you so much to all those who gave me honest reviews and areas of improvement. You took time to analyze and tell me those points proving that you care.

To those who haven't caught up with the movie, you are welcome to check it out on my facebook timeline or search for tamasoma+cutmirchi on youtube. Those who ignored it, I'll try harder next time to gain your attention. And to all those who don't intend to watch (or pretending not to) - wishing you peace !

Shalom until 'Asatoma' !

My Journey through Filmmaking !

It's good to be back to the wordplay mode after a hiatus of almost 8 months. I certainly missed interacting with many friends on social media, but the break from all the scrolling through senseless forwards and shares on FB and Whatapp has been refreshing and revitalizing. Also the social media detox after 10 years was much needed for me not to potentially fall into the narcissistic trap which comes with the virtual interactions that can't always be construed on face value.

Once I deactivated by fb, whatsapp, insta and twitter, I had all the time in the world to retrospect my work life,  rediscover my business ambitions and reigniting latent possibilities. I would like to believe that the time was utilized well and hope the awaiting results coincide with my belief.  Another boost came in the way of expansion of The Saharsh Project and our family just breached the 100 mark.

But in years to come, I would remember 2018 for another development. Last year I could juggle between work, education, travel and many more avocations in addition to the social media obsession. This year was relatively calm and despite work assignments, I had a lot of time to cultivate and inculcate myself with a new hobby. I have been camera crazy since forever but I hit a moment of reckoning when I started self-learning camera to it's full potential. Earlier I was brandishing my DSLR at family vacations and thought I was good at photography but only after I learnt a bit of camera did I realize that not everybody who owned a DSLR was a photographer the way everybody who owned a pen wouldn't be an author.

My perennial passion has been writing and was writing more of non-fiction through this very blog till recently because that was my way of expression, an outlet. For the first time I gave a thought of expressing through camera and the In the Feelings - Kiki Challenge happened. I don't know what prompted the ladies in the video to trust my sensibilities sans any experience but they obliged to perform. While it's not the best of creative works, we all were happy with what came out considering the impulsive, inexperienced effort. I can't thank my friends enough for keeping up with my supposedly creative demands. But the more rewarding and enriching experience than the filming was editing. Learning the craft was an uphill ordeal but once I got the elements, I realized it could be quite an hobby in itself. To keep the fire going, I also edited the video clips we took in Greece last year and produced Em Sandeham Ledu - Reprisal.

In between all these, some other development occurred. Few months back, I was browsing through some news article and stumbled into a very interesting, unimaginable article which blew my mind into pieces. My first response was to write a story based on that, my first attempt at fiction. Halfway through, I felt I could convey it to larger audience if I translate that into a visual medium. First thought of a docudrama and then graduated the idea to make a short-film. My family heard the story and were more intrigued than I was which lent me a kind of reinforcement. But they believed I could do a better job with proper planning and execution than a half baked one. So they gave me the actual impetus to sign up Tamasoma. And a journey thus began.

The journey started with story writing, then moved to screenplay writing, character arc development and other pre-production work. The day came when we handpicked actors to play certain roles and picked up courage to ask them if they could act in my 'directorial'. Except one, all characters were written with certain people in mind and when I narrated the story to them, they kindly obliged, albeit with some reservations, I suppose. The people I wanted to work were those whom I knew personally and thought they would fit the bill to the T and whom I know I could get along well because that was more crucial for me. Building that team was easier than I thought. Like-minded people joined the crew and before I could realize, we were a 15 people team (production and post-production combined).

On the parallel track, I was learning crafts of film making, camera movements, cranes, gimbals, lighting equipment, sound, dialogue writing etc. Everything for the first time and I can't express how exhilarating and exhausting each phase was. My cast and crew were rock-solid beside me and I'm sure they did everything not to let me down despite noticing my amateurism. Every single person delivered everything I wanted and required on and off screen. They also came to terms with my re-shooting entire sequences 3-4 times without rolling their eyes. I still wonder what made them oblige to so many of my silly antics and tantrums. Thank you guys and love you all for your support and I apologize in advance if I won't be able to translate your hard work and conviction onscreen.

The production of the movie was fun and more like a picnic barring production design where I and the team had to run pillar to post to get logistics arranged. The movie making experience was diagonally different from music video reprisals or travelogue videos because there was screenplay, dialogues involved and we had to make sure every scene conveys the story to audiences in the way I imagined. After a month of shooting, post-production began which was another uphill task, more exhausting than the shooting itself. My editor (a professional guy who worked with teams of RGV etc) has been extremely patient, knowledgeable and is doing an able job. I'm waiting to witness his skill on the final product. Background music and foley is underway and is helmed by another old acquaintance who worked with teams of AR Rahman and Hiphop Thamizha.

As mentioned earlier, my conviction was that I could convey the story better as a movie than a blog article but I'm not sure how successful am I (or would I be) because I could see how unfledged, raw and callow my work as a director was and how I can do a better job now after going through the end to end movie making life cycle. I might have been haughty and cocky for believing that I could deliver magic without any training but without that presumptuousness and arrogance, I would not even have ventured anything into these waters and I'm glad I did it.

I hope the audience would watch the movie through my eyes and enjoy the story and the experience because as we began our marketing, this is one story which wasn't told in world cinema as yet. Our creative naivete may get under criticism (which we welcome wholeheartedly) but the story line won't. I promise the audience won't be disappointed about the story if they could be a bit lenient on our inexperience.

For those who asked me why did I only address intense subjects (like in In the Feelings - Kiki Challenge and now with Tamasoma), watch out for my take on love and romance in a video to be uploaded tomorrow at CutMirchi Media. Oh, by the way, we rebranded the channel from Myriad Tales to CutMirchi Media in an anticipation to indulge ourselves in serious visual media experiments.

So you will see more of my work and possibly myself on screen soon (but not acting or running around trees..). Watch out, Dear Friends !

Top 15 Film Directors I Love to Watch

Being a self-proclaimed movie-buff, I took a long time to write a movie based post. Here is the one where I tried to list down my top 15 film directors who (almost) consistently impressed me with their craft and captivated my senses through tightly scripted, content oriented movies.

While I loved some masterpieces by directors like Guru Dutt, Satyajit Ray, Akira Kurosawa, Al Hitchcock, Roman Polaski, Adoor Gopalakrishnan, Stanley Kubrick, Client Eastwood, Ang Lee, Ridley Scott, Steven Spielberg, Ben Affleck, Vishal Bhardwaj, I don't see their work as consistently engaging.

Though I'm a fan of international cinema, especially European, Iranian, Brazilian, Korean stuff and immensely admired single pieces of work of Majid Majidi, Alejandro Inarritu, Fernando Meirelles, I haven't seen their whole body of work to list them under my favorites either.

I couldn't care less about hero-elevation and mass elements which I never identified myself with and so the list is irrespective of their box office exploits or fan-base and hence could look skewed and stupid to few. Take it in your stride, guys :)

COUNTDOWN

(15) SS.Rajamouli: I hated all his movies from Student No 1 to Maryada Ramanna and yet he is in the list because of his ability and sheer brilliance in translating a script into visual drama on screen. He could dramatize even a gait or stare with aplomb, which sometimes goes overboard though. While many sequences in Bahubali were copied (err...adapted) from Ten Commandments, Ben-Hur and GOT, he is an undisputed craftsman who delivers visual opulence in constrained budget vis-a-vis his hollywood counterparts. You may as well peek into my earlier post about him at A Brand called Rajamouli

(14) AR Muragadoss: Yes, 'SYPder' was a dud and so was 'Stalin'. But a man who could captivate audiences through edge-of-the-seat screenplay and provide vicarious pleasure to star-fans through 'Thupakki', 'Kaththi', '7am arivu', 'Ghajini', 'Ramana' deserves a mention here.

(13) Imtiaz Ali: While his last couple of films were tedious to watch, he introduced a style of film-making which showed love-stories in a different light. Raw, intense and authentic. His debut 'Socha Na Tha' was a surprise for me but 'Jab We Met', 'Love Aajkal' and 'Rockstar' cemented my loyalty in his brand of film-making. 

(12) S. Shankar: When his films were dubbed into Telugu as 'Gentleman', 'Premikudu', 'Bharateeyudu',  'Oke Okkadu', many believed he could do no wrong and would be an unprecendented hit-machine. He showed what grandeur was much before Rajamouli did and could be deservedly called 'James Cemeron' of India. But later movies were huge let-down. Hoping to see the vintage Shankar with that vintage Rahman musicals soon.

(11) Woody Allen: The master of romantic comedies and God of conversation based movies (which I crave). 'Annie Hall' and 'Manhattan' stand tall as his outstanding artistry and inspiration for scores of film-makers since then. Most of the new-age directors copy (intentionally or unintentionally) or follow Woody Allen who could be credited for inventing a new genre of movies.

(10) Trivikram-Vijaya Bhaskar: A legendary dialogue-writer whose movies run in my car's rear entertainment system all through the year. His movies have repeat value and though he worked with star heroes, he successfully steered across insipid scenes and predictable conversations unlike his other more successful contemporaries. But must also say that movies he ghost-directed with Vijayabhasker at helm ('Nuvvu Naaku Nachav', 'Manmadhudu', 'Swayamvaram') were much more entertaining than the ones he directed to credit himself. 

(9) Farhan Akhtar: If Hindi movie history can be classified into two eras, it should be definitely before and after 'Dil Chahta Hai'. DCH released in 2001 along with more successful 'Lagaan' and 'Gadar' but the impact it made changed the dynamics and ecosystem of Bollywood. 'Zindagi Milegi Na Dobara' which he wrote and allegedly directed for his sister should be made a case-study not only in film institutes but in every personality development institute.

(8) James Cameron: The magician himself for whom sky is the limit. When top 2 biggest worldwide grocers of all time happen to be his movies, he doesn't need any further paeans or tributes. Another thing which puts him head and shoulders above other greats is his unique ability to balance visual grandeur and emotional connect which would make spectators oblivious of the fact they were watching a piece of fiction on screen.

(7) Hrishikesh Mukherjee / Jandhyala Subramanya Sastry: Legends who created a whole middle path between brainless, slapstick commercials on one side and lackluster, painfully tedious art cinema on the other during 70's-90's. Their boy and girl next door plots revolving around middle class families and day to day issues were refreshingly identifiable and heart warming. Jandhyala of Telugu film industry adapted Hrishida' style and revolutionized Telugu movies and carved a whole sub-industry in the otherwise loud era marked by mediocrity of Dasari Narayana Rao, Kodandarami Reddy, Raghavendra Rao.  

(6) Quentin Tarantino: Who else could glorify violence and bloodshed like THE Tarantino. I once randomly ran into 'Pulp Fiction' and was so stupefied by his style of creativity that I spent the next week watching all his remaining filmography. While 'Kill Bill' is the most loved among his works, 'Inglorious Basterds' was not too far behind. Tarantino revolutionized and redefined the words style, violence, gangsters, guns and background music. A certain 'Ram Gopal Varma' can copy and aspire to be Tarantino all he wants, but he must realize there's only one original.

(5) Rajkumar Hirani: I can't think of any other film director who can have such profound impact on the masses' behavior as Raju Hirani. And he nails it without getting into preaching mode. Be it education system in '3 Idiots', hospital ecosystem in 'Munnabhai MBBS', superstitions and Gandhian values in 'Lage Raho Munnabhai' or religious stupidity in 'PK' - Hirani drives his points with crisp conversations, captivating sequences and razor sharp screenplay. Aspiring film makers can study his style of film making to learn how to write, shoot, edit sequences which enthrall audiences throughout the film watching experience. The best contemporary film maker in India, period

(4) Martin Scorsese: Any legendary film director would be usually known by his one best movie which defines him/her. But Martin Scorsese churned out such landmark movies which each could easily be the best movie of the respective decade. Isn't Goodfellas the best gangster movie ever made ? Taxi Driver, Shutter Island, The Departed, The Gangs of New York, Raging Bull are such unforgettable classics that Hollywood should be renamed as "Scorsese Film Industry". 

(3) K. Viswanath: If there's anybody who's all time best film director India has ever produced, that would be none other than Viswanath. Especially his movies of early 80's like sagara sangamam, swathi mutyam, sitara, sirivennela, shrutilayalu, swayam krushi, swarna kamalam show how one visionary rose amidst a plethora of substandard film makers to confer certain respect to vernacular music, performing arts, linguistic aesthetics while addressing social evils when he could have easily chosen the regular run-of-the-mill formulae of the industry. And masses who were accused to be enjoying mediocrity rose along and gave their stamp of approval.

(2) Christopher Nolan: When I first watched 'Memento' (way before Ghajini), I was so lost and confused with two interspersing stories which was too taxing on my mind. When I watched it for the second time, it looked like a whole new movie altogether. Making a film like a puzzle and giving audiences some clues to figure out the plot was sheer brilliance of a certain Chris Nolan. Nolan is not just a film maker but a bonafide genius, a savant per se. His Batman series was a bit let-down but The Prestige, Inception and Interstellar too test audiences' mind more than visual senses. He is one of a kind.

(1) David Fincher: All the above mentioned film makers were genii in their own right but if there is one creative genius who made me sit on the edge of the seat without blinking in almost 10 movies, that's David Fincher. Each one of his movies got me intensely intrigued, gave me adrenaline rush and palpable heart beat. Being a massive fan of all kinds of thrillers (psychological, crime, plain old), I don't think there's any number 2 in the genre miles behind David Fincher. If you haven't watched his work, its time you get your ass down to watch 'panic room', 'zodiac', 'gone girl', 'the girl with the dragon tattoo', 'se7en' etc

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Special Mention:

Ram Gopal Varma: How I was an avid fan of RGV once and how I gradually got disillusioned by him at The Curious Case of Ram Gopal Varma

The so called acclaimed film directors I love to hate - Mani Ratnam, Sanjay Leela Bhansali, Karan Johar, George Lucas, Peter Jackson,

Why We Travel So Much !

We just returned from our Australia-New Zealand trip and I opened the blogger to jot down our experiences (which I religiously do after every big trip). But this time I decided to address one of the most common questions I get asked "How do you manage to travel so much, that too with two small kids". I usually laugh the comment off but now wanted to write down how important is traveling for us and what we get out of it.

For those who don't know, we got married a decade ago but started active traveling only 5 years back after the arrival of my son. My son and I both visited 30 countries to date while wifey visited a couple more. Baby girl has a daunting task to catch up with us. Parents joined us in 13 of those and I'm hoping for many more to come.

When I was a primary school student (around 7 or 8 y.o), my mom gifted me an yearly handbook called "Competition Success Review Year book" and I got so hooked up with countries, capitals, currencies, flags, councils of ministers, heads of states etc (and pushed academics to backseat). Since then, it had been a tradition for my parents to buy me such handbooks and encyclopedias every year and I remember that as my most favorite pieces of literature; my parents believed that broadened my horizons and I can't thank them enough for that.

After my son's birth we deliberately decided to spend most of our resources, time and energy in providing our children experiences that could broaden their horizons and educate them through experiences rather than inundate them with material possessions or comforts. We consciously wanted their education to be not limited to the walls of their respective classrooms.

The idea was to inculcate and ingrain into their small minds that traveling, knowing, appreciating and adapting ourselves to different places, lifestyles, cuisines, culture is part of life. Both my kids started their first international travel when they were few months old and now they turned to be pros.

Families which travel together stay together:

As cliched might it sound, it's true. We realized it first hand that traveling brought members of the family closer and enabled us to discover one another because during any trip - situations, environments, people around change constantly with family being the only constant unit intact. Right from planning, jotting down the list of places to visit, booking, packing and the journey, it's a complete team work. While my little girl is too young (but she understands that vacation is all about new people, hotel rooms and taxis), my boy is seasoned enough to join us in finalizing the tourist attractions to add to our itinerary. Vacations are usually the only period where we all get to be uninterruptedly together for an extended period of time away from daily routines of the world.

Not that every travel diary has been a smooth dreamy ride. We had our own share of tough situations. Our rental cars broke down, flights got cancelled, road trips had to be suspended due to bad weather, kids got sick, hotels denied our reservations for no reason, unavailability of vegetarian food options, dealing with passive and overt racism, overcharging, changing transportation options at the last moment, carrying kids and climbing mountains and walking for kilometers in forests, facing language and communication problems (23 / 30 countries visited are non-English speaking) etc.

But today if I have a choice, I would still opt to face those situations again because those challenges had put us on spot which we had to encounter, deal with which helped us learn about those places and cultures much better and etched laughable memories now. More importantly we were thrown out of our comfort zone in an alien land by people talking another language which brought us family together even stronger. We just knew that everything will settle down and all we needed to do was to keep our cool. That built our character. Another major takeaway: our kids saw how we maintained our composure to deal with those challenges and that would have a telling impact on their psyche because children grasp very fast when something is taught through model and inspiration. I can't get them learn these concepts in any school. These are the experiences we bought them through traveling.

Creating shared memories:

When I was a child and a teenager, my parents took me and my sister to various places in India and looking back, those are the best of fond memories we have about our childhood, those awkward poses for pictures, silly discussions, those simple meals, shabby motels and restaurants - all are engraved as powerful shared memories. Thanks to those memories, I have many moments of smile.

My boy is almost 6 now but once in a while, he recollects his travel memories of 2-3 years back and laughs incessantly. I can pay anything for such moments in my child's life. Apart from all the monuments, beaches and exotic locations, what we remember the most are the silliest of antics we have done at those respective places. For example: due to unavailability of proper washrooms we had to change diapers or wet clothes of our kids at the park at the foot of Eiffel tower, ruins of Colosseum, scenic train route in Switzerland, on a helicopter ride to Mt.Everest, desert around Egyptian pyramids, steps ascending Machu Picchu, lake side in New Zealand etc. As silly and crude as it might sound, we are bound to remember and laugh off for the rest of our lives. And we laughed our asses off from unpredictable situations which I can't share here.

Children grow up pretty fast and before they leave us for their own good, we wanted to gather up as many memories as possible. That's the very reason we make movies out of our travel escapades and upload at Myriad Tales - Youtube Channel . I hope, after we pass away, kids will still hold us in such beautiful memories and smile at us.

World is a teacher:

Children are generally more inquisitive and tend to ask more honest questions about each place. At least my son does. I make it a point to refresh my knowledge about each monument or tourist attraction we visit so that I'm prepared to answer his questions. Sometimes he surprises me with some profound questions which flabbergast me. Today I take pride in his cognizance of the world and geographic knowledge. He remembers all (almost) flags, capital cities and a special delicacy of each place he visited. His reactions to places and picturesque scenes make us appreciate those places further.

Traveling opened up his mind and we discovered his newfound interests. My little girl got more interactive, social and never shies away to strike a conversation in Telugu with any stranger across the world. There is a perceivable difference in their confidence levels (but his shyness remains the same back at home though). As children are fast adapters, they got acclimatized to weather, time zones, cuisines much faster than us. I was surprised to discover that my boy also realized how privileged and fortunate he is amidst many 'sad kids' of his age. Hope he retains that quality and grows up to be a compassionate and tolerant man. Touch wood !

Expensive but priceless:

One of the biggest hurdles to travel is the budget part. But it's not as overwhelming as many make out of it. Some proper planning, timing, research (read: TripAdvisor) could result in lot of cost cutting. Singles and young couples can save lot of bucks by backpacking, staying in hostels and apartments, hiring through airbnb, collecting reward points etc. Those who are on Instagram would know how a certain follower count would make one an instaceleb and corporates rush to sponsor trips for their benefit if one is creative and articulate enough. If you wanna go, you would go. As simple as it is.

Having said that, traveling is expensive but the output you get out of those experiences is matchless, priceless and magical.

Recent trip:

We wanted 2017 to be special for variety of reasons and hence visited all 7 continents and had a 12 hour incredible aerial trip to Antarctica where we could see glaciers, active volcanoes, mountain ranges, research stations and bright sunlight all through night in the ice desert from a metaphorical stone's throw away distance. While I always wanted to set my foot in the continent, I understood it would be too harsh on the kids (btw only kids over 10 are allowed to land so we were ruled out) also I would never have witnessed the landscape from one location which I could view from the up close and personal aerial tour. I felt truly privileged. I don't think I would ever be able to visit a more magical place (coming from me, living in Canada currently in -30's:- that should really mean something ;))

I was cautious about Australia because of the projected prejudice against brown skin but was pleasantly surprised. Everyone I met there including hotel staff, taxi drivers or random strangers we stroke a conversation with were extremely sweet and well mannered. Infact I experienced more racist pricks in USA which by far has the most 'asshole per capita' index in the world.

While Australia is pretty much like Canada except the right hand driving, New Zealand was a revelation. Queenstown especially was breathtaking with picturesque sceneries which no camera in the world can do justice to. The only places which could match up would be the scenic route between Interlaken & Lucerne in Switzerland and possibly Banff-Lake Louise-Athabasca Glacier corridor in Canada.

Future bucket list:

While we want to lay low in 2018, here's the bucket list for the future

1. Icebreaker cruise to North Pole, Arctic Ocean - That will complete our trip around 5 oceans
2. Cruising through drake passage to South Pole - That will complete our visit to 2 poles
3. Visiting Petra (Jordan) and Great Wall of China - That will complete our visit to 7 world wonders
4. Jerusalem - The place where Jesus Christ, Prophet Mohammed, David and Abraham once walked.
5. Trek to KalaPattar to view Mt.Everest - The highest peak in the world which evaded us in 2017
6. Base jump from 'Angel Falls', Venezuela - The highest waterfalls in the world
7. Camping in glass igloos and watching northern lights - in one of the Scandinavian countries
8. Solo skydiving and flying a glider plane - Right here in Toronto, Canada

Wish me good luck !