How to be Bad ???

Life is all about actions and reactions and the kind of image, good or bad is created only by the way we act and react to situations and people. If we react favorably to others, goody good image will be condescended upon us or else we will be bad :) So the choice is between being good to others by reacting favorably to whatever others say or being bad to others by reacting according to our convictions. Since I'm not good by any means, I'm here to explain how to be bad :D

A decade ago, I read a book titled "Meeru Manchi Ammai Kaadu" written by eminent writer Yandamuri Veerendranath. It means "You are not a good girl" with a tagline which roughly translates to "But you are a girl with a good attitude". That's a must read not only for every girl, but for every boy too because that teaches how to mould a stable attitude without getting blindly carried away by others' opinions or directions.

World is full of people with perceptions and the bad part is that everybody perceives a situation in a different way. Everybody reacts differently, thinks differently, behaves differently and the definitions of success, happiness, failure vary from person to person. A solution for a problem would not be the same for everybody and everybody will be busy convincing others that their points of view are right :D This is the very reason for arguments, fights and negotiations

Just understand that like all others around you, you too are a person with an identity. You have tastes, thoughts, wisdom, experience, feelings which can guide you to behave in a certain way. Taking a piece of advice from others is always helpful, but the power of deciding what is correct and what is not FOR YOU lies only with you as you are the best judge of your sensibilities and senses.

If you continually live for others, follow their directions, appease and try to impress them, you will cease to live your beautiful life and end up being a pet. Even if you try to appease one person or set of persons, there would be somebody to find faults with you for sure. So never give much importance to what others think about you.

If you talk more, you will be called a chatterbox and boring, if you are composed, you will be called moody and boring :D; if you are dynamic, you are called childish, if you get vocal, you are argumentative and irritating; if you present your knowledge, people say you show-off, if you don't listen to others' advice, you will be seen as immature, if you don't agree with others' point of view, you will be called adamant and resistant. This goes on and on and on and on and...............

And this is not because others don't like you because even beloved ones don't see eye to eye on lot of things we do. Its just because of the difference in perception as I mentioned earlier. Now if we take the element of negativity like jealousy, greed, conspiracy, ignorance, anger, frustration etc, these opinions and images will transform from bad to worse and worst :D

So there is nothing called being good to the world all the time as sometime or somewhere everybody becomes bad in others' eyes. So NO BIG DEAL.

It all boils down to building convictions, developing decision making power and sticking to ideals we believe in. Its just being brutally honest to ourselves and not flowing in the tide of opinions, advices, expert comments :D

But there is a flipside too. You can lead a successful and happy life only if your convictions and decisions are correct for your way of life. Confused conviction is in common terms called as foolishness. So the conviction should be backed by knowledge, experience, wisdom, contingency plan, analytical thought, restraint, resilience, ability to cope up from setbacks, capability to bounce off harsh remarks. Without any of these qualities, having a strong attitude works against you.

There is one more highly confused and abused concept about "Attitude". Showing attitude is generally associated with being rude to others, displaying unnecessary arrogance, being judgemental about others. This is a quality of confused and immature.

People with strong attitude don't give a lot of importance to others' way of life, forget being rude and judgemental. Building attitude is all about assimilating knowledge through observation, study, experience from as many corners and possible and deciding what is right and what is wrong. Its not about being desperate to prove if others are right or wrong or if other should be respected, dominated or humiliated. Don't be bad due to what you do to others, just be bad due to what you do to yourself :)

BAD is the new GOOD. Good is not that good after all. Its BAD. So BE BAD

PS: Now after reading this whole article, its for you to decide if this makes sense to you or not as building your attitude starts right here. If you blindly follow what I wrote here without thinking twice, you are contradicting yourself :D